paternal side (signal photo)
When the father performed Shradh on the last new moon of this Pitrupaksha, a strange flow of memories, feelings and thoughts started. Your father and mother are special for everyone. We have to remember them with reverence with reverence, invite them to come accept our prepared food, bless us, with this feeling we perform Shradh. They feel that wherever they are, they should live with contentment and happiness in the ancestors. Keep your children safe in your blessing armor. It is said that our ancestors wait for our reverence and calling on Shradh. They come, take the enjoyment, serve us and return.
On every Pitru Paksha, every child is immersed in the memories of father and mother, remembering with tears a whole life, childhood, cash, youth which passed in their Vatsal shadow. We remember his tenacity, affection, sacrifice and effortless labor in making, moulding, even bringing us and we bow down to him by taking a dip in the ocean of gratitude. We also remembered the late father and his generosity, self-respecting struggle, heartfelt generosity towards the members of the wider society, not only the larger family, bowed down to the yearning of his active patriotism. Salute to those sanskars, only a fraction of which adorned our lives with some meaningfulness, respect. His devotion to God, hymns, Ramcharitmanas, mantras sung by him while sitting with him, still removes the anguish, fills the conscience with purity. Then Baba-Dadi, maternal grandparents, mother-in-law, uncles, maternal uncles and all those elders remembered who gave us love, affection and blessings.
Do we also give one hundredth of what our forefathers gave us to our children? My religious-spiritual rites are made with father and mother, sitting in front of the temple of the house every evening, listening to the father reciting Hanuman Chalisa, Ramcharitmanas, singing hymns with him, mother and younger brother. have deepened. All those sanskars wake up in a favorable environment and start reverberating in the mind, the various hymns of the mind and the verses of Hanuman Chalisa automatically come alive in the silent chant.
Now there is a temple in the house, the wife does some pooja-some recitation every day, but we could never sit together like that with our children except for the ritual ceremony of Diwali-Janmashtami, immersed in that spirit and liquid faith. Can’t sing along Now we are neither the children of childhood, nor that time, nor are the children of today like that. Times have changed, we have also changed. If you were careful from the beginning, you could have done it in some degree or the other. The paucity of time is not so severe that we are not able to do important work. Now even if you want it is not possible. The children have got their way. We have not been able to give them these memories. What will they give to their children in the name of sacraments when we have become their ancestors? Will they also think in the same way as I am sitting and thinking in Pitru Paksha?
Thoughtfully, the mind started running in some new directions.
How many generations of our ancestors can we remember with names and introductions? Usually two or three. If someone is a great genealogist, if he is a scholar, then four or five. Even before this, one has to go to the shelter of his family pandas, who are skilled in the wonderful Indian practice of recording the genealogy of their hosts from generation to generation.
How much do we really know our parents whom we think we know intimately or our grandparents, grandparents whom we don’t know that much yet know a lot? We know the entirety of our parents’ lives as much as we have consciously seen and as much as they have told before. How can anyone know the sour and sweet experiences, inner and outer ups and downs that an entire life goes through until one writes an honest, ruthless autobiography?
How well do we know ourselves
The question is, how much do we know ourselves completely, understand. Do we really know all our experiences, events in their entirety, all known-unknown causes, motives, motivations from childhood till now? It can be known only by the one who is able to observe each and every behavior with ruthless neutrality and insight. But we are not all human beings immersed in self-attachment and self-immolation. Do those who keep on living their every weakness, mistake, ignorance, pettiness covered by superficial ego? There are few who dare to face their real truths and accept them.
When this is the state of our self-knowledge, can we really say that we know the inner-outer life of our parents in their entirety? No. If you take this criterion to the generation of your father and grandmother, then you will immediately understand that we know very little about them. And to the parents of baba-grandmother, their baba-grandmother, maternal grandparents? The answer is almost zero. It’s not because we’re foolish, but because it’s not possible. Life is lived not only in major events, but in the countless levels and dimensions between them.
The purpose of writing all this is to make it clear that the further we go in our limited family history, the less, the lighter, the superficial our knowledge becomes. If we take this historical curiosity series on countries, societies, religions, historical personalities, then knowing everything about them even far away becomes manifold difficult. This is the nature of history. That is why it is constantly being invented-made – by research, by study, by new techniques and with new perspectives. History is never final, it is always provisional.
Ancestor Worship in Most Old Civilizations
The ancestors have been revered in every civilization. In most of the ancient civilizations, there have been rituals to worship the ancestors, to keep them happy. It is understanding in everyone that they were, therefore we are, we are from them. If they did not have their ancestors, they would not have been there, similarly we feel connected to an infinite and unknown chain of ancestors. We are the fruit of an eternal tradition, its present. After a few days-months-years, we ourselves will be the fathers of our children. Perhaps they will also remember us like this on Pitru Paksha, will invite, feed us…. Then they themselves will become fathers one day and then their…
Do we remember only our family fathers in Pitru Paksha? Are our ancestral ancestors the only ancestors of the lineage? Or our innumerable ancestors of our innumerable ancestors, and then innumerable series of their own innumerable ancestors, so much so that in no time the intellect and imagination begin to answer to these innumerable numerical possibilities, increasingly enveloping humanity only Can’t get it? And if we start thinking about the ancestors of animals before our human ancestors, then doesn’t the creation become just our ancestors?
Heartbroken by those who curse Gandhi
Before sitting in the temple, the mind was sad, hurt. I had heard a YouTube discussion early in the morning in which three of their own acquaintances were cursing Gandhi, selectively doing such a disgusting analysis of such episodes of him that those who did not know Gandhi started hating him. One after the other lies were being told in this exhumation of Gandhi. Such foolish and malice interpretations were being made of historical events, facts, events that the two-hour discussion could not be fully heard. There was a long debate on why Gandhi is called the Father of the Nation. Can he be made the father of such an eternal nation? who made it? He was an agent of the British, the British had sent him from South Africa to India under the plan. Why is this sinful, degenerate, moral offender being glorified so much, making the young girls of the same family the victims of his sexual perversions? That is, such a list of Gandhi’s crimes which Godse did not even probably have.
A few days later, there was an opportunity for a brief conversation with one of the top Hindu religious figures of the country. In the course of talking, he said such things about Gandhi which had never been heard. Not only did he consider Gandhi the only one responsible for the partition of India, as today’s millions of educated illiterate people have come to believe, but he also gave the knowledge that it was Gandhi who had instilled the idea of Pakistan in Jinnah’s mind. I was in silence. It was sad to see such ignorance and prejudice of a revered person sitting on such a high position. It was clear that he had not read anything about Gandhi. He simply stated that he had heard it from a close friend of Gandhi. He also had no idea about the history of the Indian independence movement. When told, he became silent. It was already clear that he had not even seen the Constitution of India.
Gandhi used to be heavily criticized in his life itself. Today, after so many years, many kinds of questions can be raised on many of his works, decisions, methods, philosophies, but are also being raised. Every aspect of his life is being reviewed in reverse. It must be.
Same is happening with Savarkar
The same is being done with Savarkar. Biographies, books are coming on them one after the other. Organized efforts are being made to prove him bigger and greater than Gandhi. There’s nothing wrong with that. There must be continuous research and study on the various dimensions of every historical personality. But the perspectives and ways in which these two personalities, standing on two opposite poles of Indian history and ideologies, are being reviewed, re-analyzed are quite contradictory – glorifying Gandhi and glorifying Savarkar. The job of honest historiography is not to throw it up, it is to bring facts to the fore.
A question arose in the mind, can we not consider its main characters, characters as our ancestors despite ideological differences, while reviewing history? Is it necessary to abuse, abuse the other in order to prove one superior? All these are the fathers of the nation. Gandhi-Savarkar too, Nehru-Subhash Bose too, Sardar Patel-Maulana Azad too, Bhagat Singh-Vinoba Bhave too.
Our family forefathers weren’t the same great
After all, not all of our family forefathers were of the same great, noble character. Everyone had their weaknesses, their heights, their nobility, so they must have had their own pettiness. Still, when we remember him, we keep his goodness ahead. Do not do postmortem by planning his character.
Historical characters cannot be seen as family figures. Accurate and continuous assessment of all is necessary. Research, study, review, discussion, writing goes on around the world about familiar pages and personalities of history. This is necessary. History is a constantly active, dynamic subject in which new facts are discovered and based on them, new evaluation and review of old events, phenomena, periods, countries, societies and historical characters goes on. But reappraisal should not mean the glorification and denial of individuals on the basis of prejudice, prejudice, malice and convenient political interests. It not only pollutes the history genre, it fills the hearts and minds of generations with untruths, misconceptions and distorted history perception. Society has to pay a far-reaching price for this. Unfortunately it is in vogue today.
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