Being defensive is one of the most common mistakes most of us make to deal with negative situations, but being defensive does not always help.
Being defensive is one of the most common mistakes that most of us make to deal with negative situations, but being defensive does not always help, rather it can make situations worse which can get us in trouble. Therefore, instead of being defensive, we should deal with conflicts or arguments in polite ways to cope with them. But how to do that?
Most people cannot control it and cannot even stop themselves from being defensive. However, this will not happen overnight. They should try it continuously to practice it. Today we are telling you some easy ways to prevent yourself from being defensive.
Pay attention to your values
When you feel defensive, focus on the areas where you feel confident. Remember your values that really matter to you. By thinking about your values, you will feel confident again and will be able to increase your self-respect and then you will not feel it necessary to be defensive.
See criticism as a sign of another’s faith
Do not criticize others personally, but take it as a sign of the other’s confidence in your ability. Maybe, he has high expectations from you and you consider him a valuable person. Therefore, they are criticizing your work so that you can do better. This feeling will reduce your desire to start defensive.
Take a deep breath
Saying something in a defensive tone can often sound too harsh. Instead, you just take a few deep breaths and think about what to say calmly, while the other person is talking a lot about your shortcomings. It will calm you down, help you think rationally, reduce your defensive behavior and will say everything calmly through the right words.
Use the I statement
Instead of saying “I want you to grow up”, “I am not comfortable with this” or “I can hear what you are saying”. This will reduce the stress of the situation and calm things down.
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